DESPERATE HOUSEWIVES AND MOMMY ISSUES

As I have gotten into watching Desperate Housewives for the first time, which is an amazing show, I have witnessed a trend with all of the main character women, they all have something in common, that being mother issues. all of them have horrible relationships with their mothers.

Susan’s mother seeks approval through men, often putting men ahead of her own daughter, Has attention seeking issues and constantly makes everything about her. Around season 2 if I’m not mistaken, is when Suzanne’s mother comes to visit her, the whole time she spends her time running after men, bringing random men into the house early in the night despite her daughter telling her she is uncomfortable especially with having a teenage daughter in the house. Despite this Suzanne’s mother is very careless. Seeing Suzanne’s mother explains why Suzanne is the way she is, why she constantly seeks approval from people, why she can’t be alone, why she constantly also chases men.

Bree’s mother died and she was left at the mercy of her stepmother, who constantly was so critical and harsh with bree. never making Brie feel good enough as a stepdaughter or even as a person, this explains why she is very strict with her children and why she is very dominant and likes to be in control, everything has to be perfect, only then will they and she be good enough. Her stepmother conditioned her to think that if things were not perfect they were not good enough, which caused Bree to despise her stepmother even into adulthood.

Edie’s mother was an alcoholic whose husband left her for another woman, she also talks down to her daughter a lot, telling her no man will ever want her, Edie uses sexuality to feel better about herself, not saying that she be she can’t own her sexuality without trying to impress men, but through the show it is very clear that she truly thinks men can only want her for one thing, which is her body, she constantly uses her body to seduce men, especially married men. She is an insecure woman who deep down wants love but feels like no man will ever love her so she makes up for that by being overly sexual. She even left her own son and acted like he did not exist so she could go live in the suburbs and continue seducing men. She left her responsibility the same way her mother left her.

Lynette’s mother was also a drunk who abandoned her children chasing after men, cheated on her husband and left Lynette to take care of her siblings. She had to raise her siblings like they were her own due to her mother being incapable of getting herself together. her mother is a self-sabotager, None of Lynette mothers daughters want to take care of her in season 4 and she had to live in a car, her husband went no contact with her for years. Her daughter is in therapy healing because of how her mother treated her, and in season 4 her daughter talks about how her mother constantly degrades her and criticizes her. The problem is Lynette doesn’t sympathize with her sister, she considers them selfish for not wanting to deal with their mother’s cruelty. I think Lynette feels bad for the mother because she is now a mother and wouldn’t want her children to treat her like that, but she is a good mother to her children she has nothing to worry about. Lynette’s mother is a pure narcissist, so are all of their mothers, self-hating women who took it out on their daughters and all of their daughters want nothing to do with them and their adulthood.

Gabrielle’s mother is a disgusting narcissist who sacrificed her own daughter for a man, A man who traumatized her daughter, she put her boyfriends before her own daughter, she put her daughter in a position where she had to kill a man to not get raped. Gabrielle’s mother is disgusting, but this truly explains why Gabrielle is the way she is, why she is so manipulative, why she puts herself before anyone, why she chases money, she had to run away from home when she was a teenager due to sexual assault from her mother’s boyfriend, I can only imagine how hard and devastating it is. especially knowing that she told people in the church and no one did anything, especially knowing her mother knew what her boyfriends were doing. everyone fell her and she was left to defend herself, she truly came from the bottom and rose up. It explains why she is very selfish and only thinks about herself when it comes to men and why she is afraid of poverty. Gabrielle’s mother even tried to seduce Carlos, Gabrielle’s husband, that is how disgusting of a woman she is. Her mother is a disgusting narcissist in its fullest form, jealous of her own daughter and letting men touch her. The point that Gabrielle says he was easier for her to leave then To hear her mother say she doesn’t believe her about the sexual assault.

I truly sympathize with Gabrielle, and all of the other ladies, all of their mothers were horrible narcissistic women who were jealous of their daughters and put men before their own children.

Edie hid her own son because she thought man would not like her if they knew she was a mother, Abandoned her chiled just like her mother did to her.

Bree drove away her own children by constantly wanting perfection which made it hard for her children to connect with her.

Susan put the burdens of her life on her daughter by constantly getting her involved in her drama with men, which is exactly what her mother used to do.

Gabrielle was afraid of having children due to her belief that she could not be a good mother. Gabrielle’s childhood was so traumatic with her mother that she wants to avoid having children all together so she won’t impose those kinds of hardships or maybe the same behaviors on her daughter.

So many women have mommy issues, narcissistic mother is the hardest thing ever, because it’s hard to leave without Society making you feel guilty because “that is your mother” Narcissistic mothers only hate their daughters or children because they hate themselves. A mother has to love herself in order to love her child, when she sees her daughter that is a reflection of her and if she doesn’t like her own reflection, it is not possible for her to love herself.